February, please be nice. :|

They say that it's the eldest's fault when the younger one's are making a mistake. That it's all their fault because their younger brothers or sisters just reflects their actions. Well, hell. It's not always their fault! For once, does the parents thought about it's the younger one's friends who are influencing him or her? Or his or her surroundings? The eldest are mature enough to not show bad things. And yet, here they are, the parents or older ones talking to them, scolding them, telling their eldest "it's all your fault! Their copying you! You're not telling them what to do! You're an irresponsible big sister or brother!" Have you told yourself that you can't just blame them like that? That they are hurting to what you're saying? Maybe just a glimpse in your mind, yeah? It loses their self-esteem. They seem to be inappropriate for a position of leader because he or she cannot even lead his or her siblings. That's why sometimes or always, when something's wrong, they blame it on themselves.